Narcissist vs. Christian Empath: How Faith and Discernment Break the Narcissist’s Hold

Here’s a truth that took me decades to finally see… You can’t reason with a narcissist. Why? Because they can’t comprehend anything beyond their own desires and perspectives. They see themselves as either the victim or the hero—never the villain. Even when they emotionally abuse you, it’s somehow never their fault. In their eyes, you’re always the instigator. They twist reality, believe their own lies, and will even convince others that you’re the abuser or one in fault. Chances are, they’ve already gaslit the friends or family they have left, making those closest to them doubt their own sanity.

It’s not just about emotional manipulation—sometimes it can even get physical, when their anger explodes. What makes it so painful is the denial. They refuse to see that their behavior is tearing their lives and relationships apart. Instead, they turn the blame onto others. But here's the reality: you can’t win with a narcissist by enabling or staying submissive to their behaviour. They will drain you mentally, emotionally, and spiritually until you have nothing left to give.

But there is hope. You can run—to God, to healing, to the freedom that comes when you leave their toxic grip behind. Begin the journey of healing from the trauma. Pray that God strengthens you to move forward, and never forget to continue to pray for their healing too. Pray for God to expose the lies and reveal the truth to those who’ve also been deceived.

If you’re dealing with a narcissist right now and struggling to break free, I get it. I’ve been there, and it’s hard. Some of the narcissists I encountered almost broke me. The scars they left are real. But here’s the good news—praise God, it also woke me up. Now, I can see the signs within minutes, and I won’t go down that road again. It’s a painful lesson, but one that’s helped me discern more clearly the times we’re living in.

And let me be honest—narcissism is more prevalent than ever. In this broken world, we’re seeing these traits out in the open, affecting more lives and relationships. That’s why I’m so passionate about discernment. I want others to see the truth before it’s too late, to know that you can’t change a narcissist. But what you *can* do is turn to the One who can heal, restore, and bring you peace in the midst of chaos.

Here’s something that will make a narcissist tremble: a God-blessed, discerning empath. That’s their worst nightmare. We may be sensitive, but we also see the red flags. And we know when to put up boundaries. We’re not afraid of being seen as the “bad person” for speaking truth. The discernment God has given us allows us to step back, call out the lies, and stand strong. Narcissists thrive in deception, but when you walk in God’s truth, their power crumbles.

So, stand firm in your faith and lean into God’s strength. As the Bible says, “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go” (Joshua 1:9). When you feel weak, remember that He is with you, guiding you out of the darkness and into His light.

I know this post was a little hard, and maybe to some a little harsh. That’s okay, it’s not going to sit with everyone. But there’s that one out there that God wants to remind that they have been given the strength to fight against this stronghold.

-Little Sparrow Loved.

Note: This is just my personal story and experience. If you need any help, I suggest seeing a counsellor or someone who can give you extra strategies and support to deal when it comes to narcissistic traits.

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